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     Healing won’t happen unless every         part of you agrees

It’s natural to believe ourselves when we say we are ready to move on or heal our issues. It can be back pain, a chronic illness, success issues, relationship issues or anything else for that matter. 

As a society we are beginning to understand self limiting  beliefs and how they create self sabotage when it comes to non physical issues but not when it comes to being ill or having chronic physical symptoms.

“ Sara” is a new client of mine. She was diagnosed with cancer and came to me for Emotional Freedom Techniques ( EFT) to heal a chronic depression.  As we spoke she told me she had a history of pains that were never diagnosed. “ You have no idea how many doctors I’ve seen. No one knows what it is. They keep telling me there is nothing wrong. I have a fear that there is something very serious and they haven’t found it yet.”

I asked her if she had the pain right then and she said she did. She pointed to the left side of her abdomen.

Since through my many years as an imagery therapist I’ve seen again and again the brilliance and truth of the communications of our body through imagery, I felt that it would be good to do imagery with her to give her body a chance to tell her what might be going on.

As she sat focusing inwards the pain moved around her body. I knew that this meant that the pain was most probably not a physical issue as much as an energetic one which is why the doctors never found anything in their tests. She said her pain was now in her head near her left eye. It was in a place that she had a problem with a few years ago  She spoke about when it started. “It was a cold winter day and there was a big wind and I didn’t wear a hat. After that I felt this pain near my eyes and my face and got a fever. The doctors said it was nothing. It lasted for months and comes and goes even now. “

Our bodies hold the metaphors of the issues we don’t resolve. Literally hold the issues. Since I knew that to be true I thought about the state that she was in when she first got the symptoms. It was cold out, she was unprotected, her head was vulnerable and she was injured by the harsh wind. 

Unprotected, vulnerable, injured by something harsh, I thought to myself. This is exactly what “ Sara” experienced in her childhood from her mom. She was an only child. Her mother was very harsh and as a child when “Sara” was ill she would ask for her mother to come to her and her mother would be abusive –angry at Sara for being sick. Sarah learned to be quiet and push all her feelings down inside her. 

I suggested we do EFT for her pain and I had her tap addressing the feeling of “unprotected, vulnerable and injured”, not once addressing the pain directly. As we tapped her pain lessened. I went on to have her tap some more but this time introduced the idea of “ I don’t want this pain anymore. I am holding the issue of this little girl that I was and I can have compassion for her and love her but I don’t need to keep holding this pain. We tapped a few rounds on that and since her pain had decreased from the general tapping on that issue I thought that her tapping on it more specifically would have cleared it. Instead, she said  “The pain is the same.”

Typically when that happens it’s because a part of us doesn’t want to give up the condition. The reasons for that can be myriad and I may talk about that in another post. 

Going with that I switched our tapping to saying “ I have this issue and I’m not ready to give it up” After a few rounds of that she looked at me surprised  and said “ The pain got better as soon as we tapped on that.” 

We will never heal if all of us doesn’t agree. If you are dealing with an issue that feels stubborn ask yourself if there is a part of you that may not want to give up the issue. Otherwise even if you do get “better” it will come back.

It can feel uncomfortable to admit your torn about giving up your symptoms because it’s frowned upon in our society to feel that way. The fact is that all parts of us and all symptoms we create have as their intention to make us feel safe. Even if it means we create illness to keep us in our comfort zone.

When you explore this inside yourself, approach yourself with an attitude of compassionate interest. Exploring your inner being is like any relationship. Once it feels your compassion and interest –it’s likely to want to reveal it’s truth.

Have a sweet day!

Shulamit

http://www.limitfreeself.com