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So many couples have problems that are a result of one being an extrovert and the other an introvert.

 

There is a misunderstanding that they both have to do with how social someone is or how many friends they have but it’s really all about the person’s nervous system. Introverts are  over stimulated and they want to pull back from stimulus and the opposite is true for extroverts, of which I am, par excellence.

I LOVE loud music and shopping malls and big groups of people I don’t know. My sweet hubby is the opposite. When we visit Manhattan, he wants to get out of the city when we are in traffic and I love the electric energy of it. He hardly ever puts on music and I have something audio going on much of the day. I LOVE to multitask and he can’t handle if I say a word while he’s on the phone. Honey I cant hear you both!

Can you relate to this?

Its not personal. It’s our nervous system and with EFT you can normalize both extremes. 

An over stimulated nervous system is one big reason for shyness in children. We all have temperaments when we are born. Sometimes the reason whey some one is shy has emotional basis to it. We can clear all those out with EFT. But sometimes its just the way we are made. 

The problem with being too extroverted is that you crave company and stimulus and can burn the candle at both ends or be distracted from doing things that you should be getting done.

To the extreme it can make extroverts feel lonely when they are alone too long and introverts can feel shellshocked and want to retreat.

It’s great to be able to balance yourself.

Typically introverts and extroverts couple together is this issue comes up often in couple session with me.

I use EFT now when I do couples work and it brings the couple to a greater love of each other.

Here is my first experience with EFT and it made me a believer. 

At the end of the post I’ll give you a tapping recipe that you can use anytime to balance your system.

Doing this daily will lower your stress in general.

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For almost 10 years I experienced my hubby dragging himself home complaining about “the mongol hordes” where he works. He was miserable because he was an introvert in an extrovert’s job. He has to greet lots of people daily. Aside from wanting him to not suffer I was getting exhausted being around him since I was picking his dragging energy up as well. It got to the point where I almost didn’t want him to open the door. Don’t get me wrong, I love him dearly but you knew how it feels to be around someone when they are complaining and exhausted all the time. It’s no fun. So I told him I wanted to try something.

 

I had him imagine the “mongrel hordes” and tap on.

 

Even though I am so overwhelmed by the mongrel hordes. 

 

Even though I find them so exhausting!

 

Even though I feel if I see another baby carriage coming at me I may scream

 

I had him tap on reminder phrases

 

mongrel hordes

 

so overwhelmed

 

they’re exhausting me

 

my nervous system is overloaded

 

After we did several rounds on each I asked him what his charge was from 0-10 and he said 0.

 

I asked him to try to get his charge up while I created an image of hordes of hordes coming in the door.

 

He said “hon, I can’t, it just doesn’t bother me.

 

Life intervened and I forgot about our tapping.

 

Several days later we were walking on a street that was full with boisterous teens just released from their school buses. Since I’m an extravert’s extrovert, I was just drinking it all in as my mind was busy with other thoughts.

 

After a few minutes my husband looked at me in surprise and said

 

“Honey, I know that they’re; noisy but it doesn’t bother me.

 

I was taught that when your an introvert or an extrovert you can’t change. “They” were wrong.

 

Well, that was years ago and He hardly ever comes in dragging and complaining. He’s even asked me to go out for walks when he’s come home!

 

When I think of all the couples I’ve worked with who had difficulties around introvert married to extrovert.

 

With  EFT both can be balanced. 

 

Is there anyone is your life that could do with that kind of change? 

 

1. Focus in on your nervous system, you may have a picture or a sense of it
2. Stay tuned into your feeling  and do this simple tapping sequence. 
3. Find the fleshy area on the side of your hand between the bottom of your pinky and the top of your wrist. Take one hand and tap into the karate chop area of the other hand while repeating the sentence below three times. 

Then, staying tuned into your feeling tap your fingers tips about 7 times on each acupuncture points below. 

• Top of your head 
• Brow ( where brow meets the bridge of nose)
• Side of eye (in front of temple)
• Under eye (on the cheek bone)
• Under nose
• Between mouth and chin
• Where your collar bone meets your rib near your breast bone
• Under your arm (about 4 inches below your arm pit)

Even though my nervous system is over/under stimulated (fill in what’s right for you)

Use this to tap on while tapping your points.

You don’t have to feel the issue while you tap. Just focusing on it will make a difference.

 

If you want to learn more about EFT check out the other posts and my website at http://www.limitfreeself.com.

Have perfectly balanced day and as always I’d love your thoughts.

Shulamit