For months now I’ve been saying I’m not a techie and thinking that’s true. In fact I convinced myself of it, talk about a self limiting belief! But, I just realized It’s not true. Not only am I capable of doing tech things, I do them easily if I’m taught properly. I’ve used programs successfully in the past but it was so long ago that I forgot I knew them! I’m a person in the “teach them to fish” camp versus “buying people fish.” So even though I could save lots of time if I just pay someone to do my blog creation or other blog related stuff I won’t have learned anything and if I want to blog in the wee hours of the morning I’m screwed. So, I decided I was going to learn it by myself.
I began to listen to some teleseminars that took me through the steps and hit a glitch that I’ve been hitting all year long. For any of you who know Emotional Freedom Techniques, I did a lot of tapping on those frustrations!. I kept thinking it was me! I would go in to bouts of trying to get things done according to the directions that people wrote and then hit a bump and be down for another few weeks.
My new years resolution is to learn what i need to learn and get myself out on the net so I can share what I have with anyone who wants it. Step by step I followed the recordings and kept trying to follow the steps that I was given and kept hitting glitches. I kept thinking that it was me until I slowed it down and pulled way back and looked at the actuality of what happened when I hit the glitches.
I saw that what really was happening is that it wasn’t me at all. The audio and the directions on line didn’t line up with the visual that I got when I opened up the pages they referred to. I saw that it was the disconnect that happened when I tried to make them line up when they didn’t that created a disconnect in me. I find metaphors everywhere. It’s second nature to me. What I realized was that what I was experiencing in trying to make things match when they didn’t match is what children experience in dysfunctional families. They hear one thing coming out of their parents’ mouths and they see another.
Children need so desperately to believe that their parents are God since their very survival hinges on it, that it creates a disconnect –one that as children we have to make sense of. We cant afford to find fault with our parents so we make it our problem. We say we have something wrong with us. In psycho;logical terms its called cognitive dissonance. We change the picture so all things match even if it means that we denigrate and hurt ourselves.
Think back on your life as a child. Where were there disconnects in your childhood? where did you see things that didn’t line up with what you were told. Things that you were told by your clergy or your teachers. As adults we see that in our government. Most people associate politicians with disconnects so we make sure to watch their behaviors very carefully to see if their words and their actions match.
Think back on any mismatches in your childhood. Odds are you made conclusions that may have ended up with you as the problem. Think again. Feel for the disconnects. Write about them in detail. Write down the self limiting beliefs you have about those incidents. In the days afterwards notice how those self limiting beliefs show up in your life. Notice how they stop you . Who would you be without them? Where would you be in your career, love life? Write about that “you”. It’s possible to heal the injuries from those experiences. With Emotional Freedom Techniques you can zero in on each of them and clear them for good.
When you are doing any of the exercises in this page take care of your comfort. If you find as you are tapping that you are being overwhelmed by feelings please stop and contact an EFT practitioner who has the skills and experience to guide you in the process safely.
You can learn more about Emotional Freedom Techniques on my website athttp:www.limitfreeself.com
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Shulamit